Wow! We have been praying for our #1 girl and our #1 boy to have understanding with this baby loss all week long. Our first explanation left my big girl with more questions and confusion; but this morning I woke up with the words that I thought just may bring my #1 girl's heart back to a place of peace. Thank You GOD!!!!!! Her concerns were - Why did God change His mind? He never makes mistakes so, why did He take our baby away?
I realized that we have not had an official 'birds and the bees' talk and so her understanding is that God puts a baby in the Mommy's tummy and that is that. I explained to her that God takes a piece of the Mommy and a piece of the Daddy and mixes the pieces together to make a baby. Something could be wrong with the piece He uses, God could realize the baby would be too sick and not want it to suffer, or the devil could steal life. We do not know why this baby did not survive but God is good either way and He will restore our family. I shared with her that everyone likes to call the earth 'Mother Earth' because, just like a baby grows in a Mommy, seeds grow in the earth to produce beautiful trees and flowers. I then shared with her about Job, in the Bible.
I told her how the devil thought Job was only a good man who loved God because nothing bad ever happened to him. God allowed the devil to try to discourage Job and, no matter the loss, Job never stopped trusting and loving God. I told her even though Job lost his health, his children, his wife, his home and everything he owned - He still trusted in God and God's goodness. And because of Job's faith and love for God, God restored more than Job lost.
She giggled and said, "I get it. God can always turn things into a miracle. He could have healed the baby, if that was what He wanted to do, or He can give us a new baby, if that is what He wants to do." Tears welled up in her little eyes and a peace washed over her. God is still good! It is once again settled within her heart. The burden was lifted. PRAISE GOD!!! And then.... she giggled and said excitedly, 'God could give you a new baby when you are 90, like Abraham!' I said, not so excitedly, "Let's not pray and ask God for that!" She giggled and walked off with a peaceful heart in tact. And #1 son said he wasn't worried about it all, he knows God is good. Boys can be so matter of fact but I am glad I know his heart is settled too. <3